Keeping a Family Together after a Divorce

How to keep a family together after a Divorce

The biggest misconception about divorce is that there is no longer a family. The parents in the family may not be together anymore but they will never be out of each other’s lives. What happens after a divorce is crucial for the development of the children involved.

There are things that both parents need to decide on, schools and extracurricular activities need to be chosen, homework needs to be monitored and transferred between houses.

 

Peaceful co-parenting is the best thing a couple can do for their children. Through your parenting partnership your kids should see that they are the most important things to you, that your love for them is bigger than anything else going on between you and your spouse.

Kids whose parents have amicable relationships feel secure, benefit from consistency, have a better understanding of problem solving, and are mentally and emotionally healthier.

 

Tip 1. Leave everything in the past

 

Successful co-parenting means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. obviously, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most important.

Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.

 

Tip.2 Improve communication with your ex

 

Peaceful, consistent, and purposeful communication with your ex is essential to the success of co-parenting—even though it may seem absolutely impossible. It all begins with your mindset.

Think about communication with your ex as having the highest purpose: your child’s well-being. Before contact with your ex, ask yourself how your talk will affect your child, and resolve to conduct yourself with dignity. Make your child the focal point of every discussion you have with your ex-partner.

Remember that it isn’t always necessary to meet your ex in person—speaking over the phone or exchanging texts or emails is fine for the majority of conversations. The goal is to establish conflict-free communication, so see which type of contact works best for you.

 

Tip.3 Co-parent as a team

It’s healthy for children to be exposed to different perspectives and to learn to be flexible, but they also need to know they’re living under the same basic set of expectations at each home. Aiming for consistency between your home and your ex’s avoids confusion for your children.  

Rules don’t have to be exactly the same between two households, but if you and your ex-spouse establish generally consistent guidelines, your kids won’t have to bounce back and forth between two radically different disciplinary environments. Important lifestyle rules like homework issues, curfews, and off-limit activities should be followed in both households.

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Deportation and Families

The Deportation of a parent and it’s long term effects on their family

How does a family hold itself together after a parent has been ripped away from their lives,  Possibly forever? That is a question that no family should have to ever be faced with.

Unfortunately between 2009 and 2013, nearly 4 million non citizens were deported, perhaps half a million of them parents of a U.S.-citizen child. Right now we face the real fear of those numbers going up.

President Donald J. Trump who not even 24hrs after appointment issued an executive order on immigration affecting millions of families.

The newly elected President issued an executive order temporarily banning travel from seven muslim-majority countries. The move, which has raised a series of legal questions, sparked protests around the country as people who had previously been approved to come to the United States were being detained at airports and companies such as Inmigracion Xpress are booked with people trying to get their status resolved.

This executive order does not include any countries from which radicalized muslims have actually killed americans in the US since Sep.11.2001.

Hostility Towards Immigrants in the US

With this new travel ban and the seemingly increasing hostility towards immigrants in this country. A colossal amount of non-residents are fearing for the future and the futures of their families. We could see the numbers of deported illegal immigrants skyrocket.

How will this affect their families?

How will this affect their children’s futures?

A child’s upbringing is their future. We’ve heard the story so many times, the child of a one parent home has the harder time in school. Leading to dropping out and teenage pregnancy.

When someone immigrates to the US they are putting everything they are into a brighter futures for them and their family.

Higher numbers of deportation will only lead to higher numbers of dropouts, teenage pregnancy, and illegal drug use.

Have you ever wondered what happened to the children of deported parents?

They usually go to live with distant relatives that are u.s. Citizens or if they don’t have any relatives then they enter the system.

There is no one to welcome them home. There’s no one to talk about their day. There is no one to cook them dinner. They are alone and usually surrounded by the worst of influences.

This in turn affects the Future of the united states because these children are a part of the future generation. What they can and can’t contribute to society affects everyone in this country.

To protect immigrant families is to protect american families. Our government needs to realize that we are all the same.

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